Routine

After a period of intense feelings of being in love, it is normal to feel less excited. You get to know each other better and you get used to your relationship. Being together can then become routine.

For some people, routine is a problem, while for others it may provide a calming and reassuring feeling. Knowing each other well and being used to each other can also give a feeling of stability and security.

If you think routine is a problem, ask yourself:

• Why has my relationship become routine? What are my expectations? What do I want to change and what do I want to do about it?
• Have I talked to my partner about my expectations?

If your partner knows you want things to be different, you can try to find solutions together. This can make your relationship more intense. Make time for each other and try to do new activities together. For example: go out together if you feel you are at home too often. You can also try something new if you feel your sex life is boring. This can be exciting and fun.

Changing your routine does not mean the end of your relationship. You also do not need to look for excitement outside the relationship immediately. Ask yourself what it is you really want.

Being a parent may change your relationship with your partner. Make time for each other.